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8 things to strengthen one’s relationship

Given the last 13 years of somewhat unsuccessful relationship “experience”, I have tried to gather and combine a list of things or tips, which I think would make or help in having a satisfying and working long term relationship.

  1. Honesty; Possibly the most important thing of all. Always be honest and truthful to each other, on all things in your life, be it as a couple or individual. Honesty helps you feel more comfortable and assured on where you stand in your love affair.
  2. Be respectful – Mutual respect is important in maintaining a healthy relationship. The wishes and feelings of each other are valuable even when you disagree. Be genuine and show interest in your partner’s life and hobbies – such things can only bring you closer as a couple.
  3. Trust – This is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling relationship. It take time to build trust and can be lost in a split of a second if one feels betrayed. Examples of being trustworthy are: being reliable and following up on your promises, share what you feel and always say the truth, be a safe place for your partner, be consistent (not only when it is convenient or things are going well).
  4. Be considerate – Keep each other in the loop, ask for holdinghandssunseteach other’s advise in decision making, especially when this will affect your life together as a couple.
  5. Affection – don’t just say that you love your partner; demonstrate it. Kiss each other good morning, be passionate, hold hands in public, take pictures together – make memories… surprise each other with a romantic date or a gift.
  6. Know your Priorities – Although we all lead busy lives, we should always find time for our partners. If you don’t see this as important, perhaps you should spend some time to think about this and why you are hanging onto a relationship which you don’t feel devoted to. If we all invest as much time on our relationship as we do texting, playing games, on social media and watching TV  or films, we might actually have a meaningful relationship.
  7. Security – Show that your partner can count on you to be there in times of need; be it emotionally or physically.
  8. Be a team  – You are stronger together, as a team. Make plans, ensure you have shared goals and same purposes and views long term. Work together.

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Hi ho, hi ho! To the Hobbit house we go!

After watching the Hobbit movie twice at the cinema in a span of two weeks, my fascination with hobbit houses has come back to haunt me. It haunts me as it feels like I will never own one… It mesmerises me as it makes me think, and hope. Life can be so unpredictable at times.

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During one of researches online about hobbit houses, I came across a story about a couple who were given a plot for free in Wales to build a hobbit inspired house. The couple have moved from this house a few years back and are now building a bigger house in West Wales. The original hobbit house, looks like it is now demolished or in the process to be demolished… Not because it was structurally built badly, but because they never got the permissions to build it. Shame really. I think it would have been a great local attraction!

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In one of the interviews they had, they explained how the house only costed them £3,000. They mention that this is due to the fact that the house was mainly built with natural materials and scrapped items.

The house was built in 4 months, mostly consists of wood and is dug into a hillside.the roof was covered with a layer of earth, has grass on which helps blend the house into its surrounding.

The house is using sustainable material and energy throughout; lime plaster instead of cement, a fridge which remains cool due to ventilation coming from beneath the foundation and compost toilet. A wood burner was used to heat up the house.

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I would actually love to get the opportunity to build and have such a lovely home. I do love cities, but I do love being in the country side, enjoying nature itself. Tell me the truth… can’t you imagine yourself sitting right here?

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