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My tattoos, Steffi Says

Of skulls and Bows

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The 5th of June, 2014 was a big day for me. It was a warm late afternoon, and at around 5pm I was waiting at the tattoo studio to design my first two tattoos. Yes, you heard me, two tattoos. Some people think I’m crazy that I started off with two tattoos. But I’ve been wanting tattoos for years, and never had enough courage. I just knew what I wanted, I built up the courage I needed and wanted to show them off all summer ;p

Joking apart, the tattooist from Skink Tattoo Studio in Mosta, was very patient with me.. He answered all the questions I had before I placed the booking and even during our session. He was very gentle with me since I never had any tattoos done. He made sure that he had some music I love while he was working on me, and we had a few interesting conversations along the way. I think that helped me to relax and enjoy the ride. My friend Le Pav, was my sidekick for the day to help me be strong and not succumb to my fear.

skulls n bows

I did two identical tattoos on my lower calves. I love skulls, and always will. But I thought I should personify them to make them a bit more classy. So I gave them a bow. Not the regular bow on the upper part of the skull; The bow is in the background, as if the skull was placed right on top. If you look at the skulls well enough, you should realise that the eye sockets are in the shape of a heart. This was done on purpose, as per my request. This is me giving my tattoos a meaning. I might have not found true love just yet, but I do believe there’s a person for every person. To me, it symbolises the fact that in such a world, it’s hard to find love, and when you find it, you should embrace it and work hard on it… ‘until death do us apart’.

Understood?
I hope so!

PS. It was very much worth the pain.

Lessons Learned, My articles / researches, Steffi Says

Have you ever wondered why some people are more curious than others?

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curiosity…Well, I did. So I researched the topic, to try and understand this phenomenon.

Being curious is much related to the exploratory behaviour of a person in his early life. Some of us are more interested in familiarity, others feel the need to be subjected to new experiences and the novelty of life. According to research the brain structure is different depending on how you were raised and whether one is more drawn towards novelty or towards familiarity.

As a trait, being curious make you more aware of the changes going on both inside you and around you. When something is of interest you are more often then not head over heels about it and explore it to the depth, and beyond when possible. Being curious works hand in hand with intelligence as when one is curious, one reads and learns. They are better at maintaining relationships, not just because they have more to talk about, but because they have an attitude of openness, passion and interest, which decreases the odds of becoming bored of each other.

When one stops being curious and showing interest in the things around him, then one can say that his way of thinking is polluted. This would affect a person’s creativity, problem solving skills as well as feeling disconnected from others. They would fear the unknown, getting to know new people and will be stuck in a world of their own. Not in the good kind of way; they will hold onto the past because that is familiar.

And till this day, I keep wondering, and thinking. Why was life so much slower when I was younger? Time does not go by faster now, but sure feels like it! I ask myself, how people can not be curious? Why some don’t question life after death? How can you believe that heaven exists, when there’s no proof? Although, that would be nice, and would give me comfort at night.

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What is on your mind? What are you curious about?

Meet My Cats, Steffi Says

Meet My Kitties

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Micki (left) & Mia (right)

A few months after I bought my house back in 2013, I realised that life without pets made no sense for me. I love cuddles, and I thought I needed some. So that was when I started looking for Mia.

After a long and extensive search to find a UK breeder who would send one of their Bengals over to Malta, I met Stella. Over Christmas time, we were arranging for Mia’s trip over to Malta, and it was on the 15th of January, 2014 that she arrived here.

Mia was shy at first, but she was running around the house after 15 minutes; chasing me and all sorts of toys I got before her arrival. Needless to say, she has a good life here.

And it became even better, when in August, Micki… my Savannah boy joined us. Mia’s companion.

We had a rocky start until they grew fond of each other. Nowadays they sleep together, they clean each other, they run after one another. They are fun to be around, and they are quite loud, excruciating at times! But I wouldn’t have them any other way!

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Mia (left) & Micki (right)
Lessons Learned, My articles / researches, Steffi Says

Self-Control

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Lately I have been discussing this with a number of people, and some people seem to be in awe with regards to my will power. I still have some more to go, but I think I am almost there, on most aself_control_posterspects.

Self-control is a form of restraining yourself. Like everything else, restraining yourself in an exagerated way is wrong. Stopping eating altogether is bad, hiding entirely your feelings and emotions is also bad. One needs to learn to say no, when it’s enough. One bar of chocolate a day, is good enough. Stop letting people treating you like crap, or taking advantage of you.

Controlling your own behaviour would help you in both your personal life as well as at work.When you discipline yourself, you can plan better and finish within your deadline. Self-control helps you focus on your life and goals. On your journey.

These are a few tips I have learned along the way:

1. Look at the big picture – What do you want to achieve? How are you going to get there?
2. Remember the basics – Take it one step at a time, you will get there.
3. Don’t procrastinate – Focus
4. Love yourself – Respect yourself and it doesn’t hurt to reward yourself from time to time too!
5. Be confident – This i where I still struggle.
6. Rest – Don’t over do it. Make sure you get a good night sleep, so you can work harder the next day!

My Poems, Steffi Says

Dead or Alive.

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Hell is just a feeling
Keeping you from reasoning.
Open up your eyes
Make a step, for your sake.

No more secrets and mysteries
No more fights and lies.
Open up your heart
Everything will heal.

Take away the dead black roses
The thorns and pains.
Open up your mind
Life is full of colours.

//By Steffi

My Poems, Steffi Says

Tormented

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I gave you my heart
You tore it apart.
You split it in two
because you, love you.

//By Steffi
This is an old poem, but I thought I’d publish some of my work from time to time.

Cardiff, Experiences Abroad, My Life, Steffi Says, Wales

Summer in Cardiff

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Cardiff is going to be the first holiday I will be planning for this year. I will be visiting end of June and currently I am trying to decide whether I should book a hotel or self catering accommodation. Usually I tend to choose the latter as I cardifflike my privacy and have a kitchen, if I fancy to cook something myself one of the evenings. However it looks like it’s going to be quite hard to find what I want, as during the same time I am visiting, there’s a motorcross show, and as such some of the best self catering places are already booked. I have decided that if I have not decided my accommodation by end of the week, then I will be staying at Travelodge.

Obviously, I chose Cardiff for a couple of reasons:
1. I have not yet been to the south of Wales; I usually tend to visit the North (I’ve been to Chirk, Llandudno, Conwy and their surroundings so far)
2. Cardiff Castle
3. Doctor Who Experience and related fandom
4. Cardiff Bay Wetland Reserve
5. Mermaid Quay
6. Gothic architecture (St. John the Baptist Church, St. Mary’s Church St. Fagans)
7. Hopefully a ghost tour in the castle itself but the dates are not yet out for summer!!

My Poems, Steffi Says

Thump, Thump

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What lies inside,
is what matters
Or so they say…
Our beauty fades,
but who we are stays. Continue reading Thump, Thump →

About Malta, Malta, My Life

Winter Sun

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When you get out of the office for the day… and you look at the sky…  so blue… and up, shining is the winter sun… Continue reading Winter Sun →